Mom Wars


One of the hardest parts of parenting for me has had nothing to do with the kids.
Moms are hard on each other. Seriously brutal.

From breast feeding (I didn't) to bottle feeding, to that solid line drawn between stay at home moms and working moms, parenting is often a battle against the exact people we should be battling with.

I have been in many positions. I stayed home full time, owned a daycare, and then attended college full time. I now work full time at the kids' school and write on the side. Every single one of those has been in has been both exhausting and rewarding in their own way.

Each position is also full of questions, fears, and guilt trips. Wars break out and motherhood becomes a battlefield over personal choices and the fight to prove just who has it the hardest.

My question is why are we are always trying to prove we have it so rough?

We have it harder than some but not nearly as hard as others. Over the last year, I have watched our community suffer through some hard things. Devastating losses, health scares, house fires, and most recently, I have watched my Dad battle cancer (a fight he's still in).

There are several things we should try to remember:

Life is already messy without us perpetuating pain through harsh and petty judgement calls.

Parenting won't look the same on any of us, and that's okay, because we are parenting unique children. What works on mine might not work for yours, and vice-versa. Parenting does not work as a one-size fits all.

The challenges you face are meant to strengthen you and you are made to overcome them.  Even in the devastating events above, these obstacles are meant to draw us closer to God.

My solution is to look up and ask God to guide us each through the lives we have been given. They will all look different because God created separate plans for us all, and  through them, we will struggle and grow.

Hopefully the end result will always be that we grow closer to God and closer to each other.

Meg DuncanComment